There must also be trust as a foundation in every relationship for it to survive the storms of life.
Physical looks and simply sharing common interests is not enough to uphold any relationship but emotional and physical attraction are also not enough but they can coexist knowing one is different than the other. A deep soul connection to another human is called emotional attraction. It is something that cannot be touched.
According to psychologist and psychotherapist Brendan McMahon, when you’re emotionally attracted to someone, you find them compelling and comfortable. “Part of that is they are more inclined to share your values and your world view, and you find it easier to open up about yourself and disclose with them,” he explains.
Emotional attraction is all about wanting to listen to someone instead of just hearing them. It’s being endlessly curious about the other person, it’s caring about the little things that matter to them, and for both parties, it’s feeling understood. You get each other.
With a strong emotional attraction, experts overwhelmingly agree that our relationship is more likely to go the distance. However, there is a catch. You can’t build emotional attraction if it doesn’t exist at the start. McMahon says emotional attraction is something you can’t fake. “You can strengthen emotional attraction, but it has to be there to begin with. You can’t just fake it,” he says.
With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:2
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. 1 Cor 13:13
